The Baker’s dozen – a little extra for Thursday

 Continuing on with motivations for each day of the week, inspired by Timothy Pikes’ 6 commitment series which can be found at :  http://theimportanceofbeingedited.wordpress.com/commitments.

 I need to join up today. 

Thursday is the day to connect- to join a new group of human beings. People and opportunities to meet people come the way of everyone. No one has to be alone. We need to open up to connect. 

Why should I connect ? I am an introvert- I like to be left alone. To share things, to get readers for your blog, to find people to publish you, to talk things out, to feel better about yourself, to make some one else feel better- all good reasons to connect. 

In what ways could I connect with others ?

1. Join a gym and talk to the gym clerk as a friend – maybe you will make a friend

2. Walk in the park and smile at one total stranger today- if it is a good day, that person will smile back, and maybe the smile will lead to a “Hello”.

3. At work, share a cup of coffee with one of the persons everyone avoids at office ( there is always someone).

4. Talk your problems out with your spouse or your children and connect. It is only when you share that they know you have some hidden need. 

5. At the shopping mall, say Hello to the cleaner there. May be that will make his/her day.

6. In the blog world, read someone’s article with an open heart, appreciate the feelings behind the post and then write a comment- it will not take a minute but it may mean everything to that person. Comments are better than likes, believe me. 

All these connections will help us build up our network. Each of these connections will release a little bit of positive energy into the universe,which all adds up. 

Why do the leaders at religious places tell us to pray for someone who is sick or needs prayers ? Why do we pray for someone else’s well being ? It is the same principle.  Little prayers are little connections which release little bits of positive energy and when they join up, a huge fusion reaction takes place. Perhaps that act of joint prayer from all over the world will join up and move mountains.

I have read somewhere that life is a journey and that each of us is a piece under construction. 

When we reach the end of our journey, the construction that is our life, is near complete. Each person we talk to or interact with, positively or negatively, constructs our life. No one is bad. Even the people we label as bad or unkind to us are actually people who have a hand in our construction.

So our life is built upon the help we receive from others. 

If I connect with one person unknown to me today, I get a little extra for my life- my construction goes up a little more and my foundation a little deeper. Like the Baker’s dozen – one extra egg for every 12.

To my daughter

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There are things I want to tell my daughter, before it is too late. Before she leaves our home for college. 

1.I love you a lot. I have tried to be a good mother but often have been selfish in that I could not give you my full attention while you were growing up. 

2. I want to thank you for all the cards you make for me throughout the year- over the years- birthday, Mother’s day, Woman’s day, Anniversary, X’mas. Thank you for all these cards. I will cherish them and try to keep them as long as I can as my memories of you. ( PS. You know I use them as book marks, in all the books I read, so i don’t lose them and can look at them often).

3.You are a very artistic person- do not lose the art as you grow older. Pursue it. Look at creation with an eye of wonder and create new things inspired by things around you. 

4. Many things you see around you may make you sad. Remember you need to carve a niche in the world in your own way. You need to understand and perceive the sorrows and miseries you see around you. And you need to get involved to do what you can to do your bit. Don’t turn a blind eye to things. Participate. Feel. Do something. Be a candle bringing light to other people in the world.

5. I love it that you have been all inclusive in your friends- you have not discriminated against skin color, hair, religion, culture or language. You have friends among people whose language you did not know when you were smaller. But you managed to communicate with them in your own way, trying to speak like them to make them understand and they did understand you. Keep this nature of yours with you all your life.

Remember, the light of my life, I love you and always will.