Snatches of conversation

My boss had to see her daughter off yesterday. Yesterday was the first day of my resolution to lose the 90 kgs that is packed on my frame, remember ?

A couple of my colleagues ( not the work bully, who has taken some time off for summer) decided to give the boss a treat yesterday during lunch time.

So they decided to take her out to lunch- though I am shy, I got invited too ! I needn’t spend all those hours looking at the computer at office- so I welcomed the break.

Kathy drove to a mall a couple of miles away and the grieving boss and the other colleague, four of us, took off at noon. We found a place to eat at the mall- the restaurant is placed inside a furniture shop, on the first floor. The decor was quaint and the furniture ( all for sale) doubled up as the hotel furniture too. I wonder what happens if someone actually wanted to buy some of the furniture and it was being used by a family at that time.

We seated at a table for four, overlooking a balcony, which gave us a view of the furniture shop below and all around us.

4 women eatingMy boss is a divorcee with two grown children who she has left back in her home country, both are college students. Even though she works here, her heart and mind are with her children. After a 2 month summer break, her daughter had returned to her college and the mum and daughter were grieving. My boss reacts to grief in a peculiar way- she works harder and sits in her office for longer hours, much past office timings. She feels she has nothing to look forward to, after going home, so she prefers to be a workaholic.


But she wishes she were someplace else- she was talking to us about her dreams and aspirations. We sensed a sorrow in her thoughts and it was not entirely due to her daughter going off. Kathy diagnosed it and perhaps correctly as ” loneliness”- maybe my boss needed a special someone in her life.

Kathy announced that she was searching for a suitable friend for my boss- she said she was looking for a professional, perhaps an engineer or a lawyer, who played golf, who would do the salsa and take my boss Cyn for long drives or on travels. We added attributes to her list- I added – the physical ones, tall, dark, handsome, and someone who would take care of Cyn- perhaps someone who would cook and look after the housework too.

house husband

Cyn smiled through it all.  She never said a word.

And then it was Kathy’s turn. Kathy is into swimming and snorkeling- most of her spare time being spent in water. She enjoys water sports but she has a kind heart too. She teaches disabled people swimming during all her free time. She runs a not-for-profit organization here and it has  a  wide outreach. Kathy talked about her room mate and co-swimming coach, who came from impoverished conditions in his home country. Her room mate was one person who ate only when he was hungry- she said. All his impulses were towards keeping alive and not for living to eat.

swimming coach

Interesting thoughts- set me thinking. I literally live to eat- it seems most of my day is spent on thinking about food. Thoughts about food and how it controls my life, govern my life. It seems I spend most of my waking hours, wondering how much this food was setting me back in my weight loss battle and here was this man, who just ate – because food to him, was just fuel and nothing else.

Kathy showed us pictures of their meal of the night before- a plate of fish, shiny and silvery and then another picture of the fish bones. That’s  it. That was their meal.

I thought- if I could eat like that, it would be wonderful. If only I could control my obsessions with food.

food obsession

Maybe, if I conditioned my mind to think like Joey, Kathy’s friend- I could too achieve the impossible and lose the first 2 kilos of my battle of the bulge.

Battle of the bulge

See what a day out with colleagues taught me- to think of food as fuel and not as a full time obsession.

22 thoughts on “Snatches of conversation

  1. My snark: there are 2 kinds of people: those who love food and those skinny idiots! Seriously, many of us struggle. I have found that walking helps–it’s calming and good for your weight loss and that encourages less eating of the stuff that gets us. I have had a roller-coaster affair with food since my late 20s, when I was writing my dissertation and discovered, quite by chance, that chocolate-chip cookies were great brain food! I suspect that the skinny minis don’t enjoy food because they eat stuff like kale and tofu–blecch!

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    1. Those ‘experts’ say that we should drink a full glass of water prior to each meal. The idea is to make us feel full earlier than our stomach usually does. I’ve always drunk water throughout my meals (my esophageal muscles are slower than a snail’s cross-country run!), but it works for some people. I’m ok during the day as I’m busy writing or cleaning or ? but the minute I sit down to watch TV at night, I crave munchies.
      Good luck. I’ve noticed that exercise (walking, mowing the lawn) over time does reduce your hunger. It also helps if you don’t buy the food you like. That last allowed me a 30 lb weight loss.

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  2. Susie, you can do it! Once you find what will really motivate you, you can do it. My motivation was thinking I was going to die of kidney disease. Now I’ve lost 48 pounds. Keep looking for the reason to do it. Motivation is powerful.


      1. I started 4 months ago. I’m up to 48 pounds now. You can do it! Just find a SENSIBLE eating plan, that you can stick to for the rest of your life. No fad diets, please. They do more harm than good. Start by eating a salad for 1 meal a day. Make sure you drink 8-8oz glasses of water a day. Later, add more healthy choices. You are stronger than you know. I promise the rewards of better health are worth it!

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  3. That’s one reason I think that God spoke to my heart. “Eat three meals a day”. I don’t have to think about the food, just eat meal ( half portions).
    It is so freeing to not have to worry about calories, carbs, counting this, counting that. The Lord has granted me the gift of freedom.
    I’m so grateful for that

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