Monday – Mews and News : I learnt to say “No”



Saying no -2Last night I couldn’t sleep very well. I woke up with a start at around 3 am and couldn’t get back to sleep after. I woke up in a cold sweat and the temperature around me was around 16 C. Thinking back on the events of the day I realized that my sensitive soul(sic) was reacting to some work related events, with my office bully colleague. Whenever I have a problem handling people, I spend a lot of time analyzing my reactions to what the person said, and how I could have told them off and things like that- its always a post-mortem of how things could have gone better.

Consequently today I had a migraine, one of those slow, dragging types and I have drugged myself with a single tablet of Paracetamol, drinking plenty of water and even managing some sleep, under my desk during my lunch hour.

A ย few minutes back, the work bully was back in my room and trying to get me to do some task that she wanted me to do. I was surprised at my own reaction to her demand. I said, ” No, I am not doing it.” The look of shock on her face was a sight to behold. I was smiling ( perhaps its the Paracetamol) making me behave crazy but I did it- I said ” No” and I am feeling so proud of myself.

Small victories are so sweet .

Saying No

Have you had difficulty saying “No” ?

And when you do, do you feel like you have achieved something great ?

Do you need to fortify yourself with something- a stimulant or so, to be able to say “No” ?



26 thoughts on “Monday – Mews and News : I learnt to say “No”

      1. Timidity is a state of mind, when you realize after introspection you will learn to be assertive, Usually the aggressive ones have behavioral issues and cover up their insecurities with overtly aggressive behavior.

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  1. I know exactly how you feel and had a similar situation in my former workplace. When I stood up for myself it felt amazing and my bully had a similar look of surprise! Most likely because I did something that I didn’t believe I could do and she wasn’t used to people challenging her. A win-win all the way around! Stay strong!

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  2. tunisiajolyn84 says:

    I’ve had difficulty saying no because I hate confrontation but slowly, I’ve been able to stand up for myself and it always feels good when I do. I am still a work in progress when it comes to assertiveness.

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