Children and Cruelty

I am inspired to write this post after reading a FB post about children being kind to animals and whether some children are born kind & good and some are born wicked ?

To be honest, I am quite taken aback. Can it be true ? Is there no role for parental and environmental influences in the kind of choices children make in their lives ? Is it all in their genes ?

I remember reading a book long ago as a teenager – an English classic, where one of the characters, enjoyed torturing small animals- I specifically remember the author writing about how he pulled insect wings off and derived pleasure from doing so. Does any one remember which classic book it was – was it Heathcliff in Wuthering Heights or a book from one of the other Bronte sisters ?

To tell you the truth, I don’t think this holds true in all cases or in any case at all. I think parents and other influences can totally mould a child’s character and his behavior ? What they see as they grow up is how they will behave.

What do you think ? Can cruelty be an inherited trait ? Can children be inherently cruel and especially to beings smaller and more helpless than them ?



New Food Plan- ASK Support Group

I am joining this support group set up by the very successful, lovely, kind and sharing Deborah Crocker. She lost more than 90 lbs of weight, constantly guided and helped by her directions from God.

The idea she has put forward is to have a support group that shares how God is leading one to eat- no diets and no judgments and no advice either.

As per the plan, I am posting my food plan for today or my food victory for today – June 28, 2016.

Last night seeing myself in the mirror, made me realise that my latest diet is not doing me much good- because of course, being on smoothies, which are unpalatable, I used fruits in considerable amounts to sweeten them up and of course they showed up on my cheeks and probably in my liver too. Current problems that bother me are severe pain along one side of my back, particularly if I sit very long in a place and especially in a very cold place( AC turned on high).

I am travelling next week for my annual vacation and am dreading the day my in-laws see me for they have a particular way of judging my size and my weight- and saying- so you have put on weight- what do you eat and stuff, I would rather not be reminded of. I am so frustrated by these thoughts that I started praying about it and asked God ( don’t laugh) if I could be seen by my relatives as thin, even if I was not actually- because after all, weight and height are a question of perception and God being all powerful can of course turn things around and even people’s view points and make theme see me as thinner than I am.

This morning, I saw myself in the mirror again and have decided to fast for a couple of days, at least to get the rotundness of my face back to normal. My face is size XXXL as I see it and I need to get it down to at least L before I travel.

So I am praying about it but am not sure if I got this message from God to go cold turkey but I am taking it as so, and trying my best- so far so good, not hungry yet and about 3 hours into my change.


Its time to change my blog name

It is that time of the year. I am 47 years old today. I started blogging two years ago- in 2014 around this time, when I was 45- aka my blog name and now it is two years hence and I am older by two years.

I am richer by so many friends that I made online. April, Kathy, Debbie Crocker, Debbie Bowman, Ritu, Judy, Erica, Jackie, Rashmi- so many.

I get excited when I hear about people who have birthdays in June- I feel they are my sibs or that I have some relation with them. Living far away from family is hard but my blog family makes up for it for a great bit.

Maybe I should change my blog name to or may be I should just keep it at 45 for it was at 45 that I made some life changing decisions and really grew up. I am who I am because of that watershed in my life, my 45th year.

Happy Birthday to me ! Hurrah !

I am not getting old