I am not sure about you but I have often given the silent treatment to people when I want them to know I am offended with them. Call me judgemental or what but this I have done. I confess it has been quite effective in getting me things I wouldn’t have got had I argued or yelled for.
One silent treatment has been lasting ever since 1989. That has been too long, hasn’t it ? Come to think of it, what did that silent treatment get me ? It was with a guy who used to trouble me a lot in college. As many of my previous posts show, I hadn’t performed too well in college. There was an instance when I got 5/10 for a record work assignment. It was an outright fail grade. All of us who had grades below a certain cut off were asked to rewrite our assignment. It took me some time to go to the Academics office and collect my record and rewrite my work. When I reached the office, I found that someone had already collected my book. A short while later, i found my book with a very interfering, persistent boy ( now middle aged) with my book and refusing to hand it over to me. Apparently he wanted to sit with me and help me with rewriting my work, so I would make the passing grade.
I blew it that day. I couldn’t take it that someone had actually had the audacity to collect my book and then offer his help(rather, force his help) on me to help me get passing grades. After telling him off in style, as a passing shot, I added, ” Since you seem to want my record so much, keep it.I have no need for it.” I am not sure where I got the guts to do that but that’s what I did and I walked off. That date is etched in my memory. Ever since I have not talked with that person, though he tried many times and even tried to return my book to me before the due date for submission- I refused to accept it ( I had bought a new record book and rewritten my work and submitted it to0.)
I still don’t regret giving the silent treatment to people. I think it has been very effective, overall.
Does the silent treatment work for you ?
Have you ever used it ?