Being honest and outspoken in office- good or bad ?

We have two departments with offices in our section of the building. These two departmental offices are separated from the rest of the university by a tall door. Anyone who enters the office doesn’t realize there are at least 10 sub offices inside each leading off from the central corridor. Two of these offices belong to the Post Graduate studies wing of the university ( administration) and the rest are for the Research Office.

One of the newly appointed temps in the Post Graduate studies wing has a problem- that of talking non-stop. This is ok as a whole except that our offices are not sound proofed and the open spaces between the cubicles carry sound waves clearly across every office in the wing. The language is the vernacular and the tone of the voice is a loud, monotone.

Kat who is housed next door to the office of the temp is severely disturbed by the continuous chattering. She has been complaining about it for days on the end, perhaps even months to our supervisor Syn. Syn has gone across to Post Graduate Admissions to talk to Anna, the supervisor of the temp, to ask her to speak to her temp, and get her to talk less or only if necessary since her talk disturbs other office staff.

I am not sure if Anna did talk to Ramsa, the temp but there has been no change noticeable in the sound levels of our department.

Kat’s roommates’ brother’s house burnt down the day before yesterday, because of an electric failure issue and the brother has moved over to Kat’s house to stay until his house is sorted out.

Yesterday, things came to a head at our office. Ramsa came into work, reported to Anna and started jabbering at a high level of amplitude. Kat, sitting in her office had had it, what with the new person in her house and the resultant adjustments that she totally lost it. She walked over to Anna’s office and told the two ladies if they minded lowering their voices a little as she was working.

Ramsa muttered something in her language and slammed the door of the office.


Kat was shocked and so was Syn, when it was reported to her.

Anna told us this morning, Ramsa, who is 30 years old has a hearing problem and hence her loud voice but she couldn’t explain the non-stop talking.

Kat who is one of the most level headed and kindest women I know, is upset about whether she has rocked the boat.

What do you think ? Should anyone in the office do anything to appease Ramsa ? Is Kat in the wrong ?

How would you deal with a similar situation?


Puffy Eyes

Waking up yesterday to puffy eyes and almost no eye slit, I was a shocker to look at.

This was not the first time it happened with me. Anytime I cry or I rub my hands which had traces of paprika or chilli on them, my eyes water and this causes my eyes to swell up. I can use my eyes and see well but for the onlooker, I look like a weirdo.

This has been going on at least for 15 years. Some days when this happens, I have had to take off from work, until the swelling goes off, which can be at least 3 days later.

This time I had had enough.

I searched the net to find out what the heaviness in my eyes was about. To my surprise, they had  a name for it and it was called “Puffy Eyes”.

And the treatment- it is an accumulation of fluid in the sub-cutaneous tissue around the eyes and the treatment is – drink more water.

I tried it immediately and it seems to be working. I am relieved.

Going about one’s life with two sensory organs functioning at less than optimum is not good.

Swollen eyes

Have you ever had swollen eyes before ?

Isn’t it a weird feeling ?

What do you do for puffy eyes ?


The silent treatment- I

I am not sure about you but I have often given the silent treatment to people when I want them to know I am offended with them. Call me judgemental or what but this I have done. I confess it has been quite effective in getting me things I wouldn’t have got had I argued or yelled for.

One silent treatment has been lasting ever since 1989. That has been too long, hasn’t it ? Come to think of it, what did that silent treatment get me ? It was with a guy who used to trouble me a lot in college. As many of my previous posts show, I hadn’t performed too well in college. There was an instance when I got 5/10 for a record work assignment. It was an outright fail grade. All of us who had grades below a certain cut off were asked to rewrite our assignment. It took me some time to go to the Academics office and collect my record and rewrite my work. When I reached the office, I found that someone had already collected my book. A short while later, i found my book with a very interfering, persistent boy ( now middle aged) with my book and refusing to hand it over to me. Apparently he wanted to sit with me and help me with rewriting my work, so I would make the passing grade.

I blew it that day. I couldn’t take it that someone had actually had the audacity to collect my book and then offer his help(rather, force his help) on me to help me get passing grades. After telling him off in style, as a passing shot, I added, ” Since you seem to want my record so much, keep it.I have no need for it.”  I am not sure where I got the guts to do that but that’s what I did and I walked off. That date is etched in my memory. Ever since I have not talked with that person, though he tried many times and even tried to return my book to me before the due date for submission- I refused to accept it ( I had bought a new record book and rewritten my work and submitted it to0.)

I still don’t regret giving the silent treatment to people. I think it has been very effective, overall.

Does the silent treatment work for you ?

Have you ever used it ?


Happy Birthday To Me! Let Me Gift Something To You!

Happy birthday Ritu. May all your wishes come true.

God bless you !



Oh Dear God… yes.. I am officially one year older tomorrow… 41! And though it is fun to receive gifts, it is also gives as much joy to give them too! So, for Saturday and Sunday, my boo…

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