Accepting humiliations

I was reading about the recent wedding in California where a woman died after a tree fell on a wedding party. The woman who died was the mother of  the bride.

I have a relatively uneventful work situation these days. Except for the occasional contribution from the difficult co-worker of whom I have written in previous posts, life is quite passive here. I enjoy it for I don’t enjoy drama- perhaps there was a time when I would have but not now.

Yesterday I was called up Building Operations and asked to visit their office. Like a six year old girl, called to go to the Principal’s office, I waited with trepidation. On one side, I was thinking maybe they were calling me for a Christmas celebration and on the other side, I was thinking like that six- year old trapped inside a 47 year body.

At 2, I dutifully kept my appointment. I was asked to sit down and the woman there asked me to sit down. I was surprised when she closed the door, as though she wanted to discuss something confidential. I was even more surprised when she said, whatever we talk here will never go out of this room. And then she told me. The matter was embarrassing, so embarrassing that I can’t share it here. Suffice to say there was a complaint against me and I needed to pull my socks up or face retribution. My gut feeling was right- I was in trouble.

With a red face, I crept up to my office. I was red in the face and couldn’t face any one. I was thinking why me God ?

Then it struck me to say ” Thanks”. This is what I have been doing for about 3 months now. I say thanks God for anything and everything that happens in my life- good or bad, beneficial or non-beneficial. And it has helped me take a positive attitude to life and I know that God is in control. Also I don’t feel like taking refuge in food and again, I don’t need to carry my official baggage home as I would have done previously because my heavenly father and I know what has happened and that is enough.

Last night sleep eluded me as I was distressed but again I said Thank you God.

Now a day later, after analysis, I have come to the following conclusions .

  1. I was getting complacent in my relationship with God and even though I said ” thanks” a lot, it wasn’t enough- my relationship was still superficial. So this incident made me rethink my bond with God and that I needed to really be in touch with the heavenly father rather than mouth a refrain of Thanks, when I felt like it.
  2. And again, it made me think that perhaps I am getting complacent in another domain- getting too comfortable in my job- I have lost my ambition.  I think God was reminding me that I need to get back on my feet and start using my brains once again. My job is very mechanical and does not involve much use of my grey matter – perhaps I need to start looking at my talents and see if I am rotting inside and get that drive back into my life. Who knew ?
  3. And as Danny of Dream big, Dream often wrote yesterday, I needed to take a break and learn to laugh at myself just like others might be doing. I am insignificant in the wider scheme of things.

How is all this connected to the wedding in California ? A good day, a wedding day, started off on a beautiful note but ended in a tragedy- who knew what course life was going to take that day. I started off yesterday as any routine day- happy, carefree and see how I ended it- heavy laden, embarrassed, worn with burden. Anything can happen to any body at any time. There is nothing that can prepare us for what will happen. Embarrassing moments come in the life of the most careful and carefree person but it is how we deal with it that ensures how we go forward in life.

Do you agree ?

17 thoughts on “Accepting humiliations

  1. Susie, What I take away to cherish in my heart through the honesty of your post is that the sense of momentary pain you feel over this incident is small compared to your wisdom and commitment to God. There is a lot of truth for all of us in your words to thank God in all things. I have been doing this over things in the past that can still cause me stress…I thank God for them and say to myself, “This is one of the hard moments that helped make me who I am, and I am strong in Christ Jesus.” Much love to you my friend. Kathy

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    1. Thank you Kathy for your encouragement. I struggle each day in my faith and also in my life. Sometimes life itself overwhelms me and I think it is enough- I can’t go on anymore but then if I give thanks then things seem a little easier- no, a lot easier.

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  2. You even said it yourself, if this didn’t happen it would not have awoken you in your relationship with God. So although it may have started out as heavy laden it ended up as a blessing in disguise!! There is no greater relationship than the one you have with God!! So you can say Thank you to the woman who spoke with you too!! Wake up your inner self and live again!!! 🙂

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  3. Deb,
    I was thinking about what you have written above and you are right- God must have used her as a vehicle to rekindle in me my faith and to tell me to move away from useless mouthing of gratitude to really saying thanks from the heart.
    You know till a few months back, when I faced adversity, I used to turn back and blame God- and ask questions like why did he allow this to happen and if he was really there, would such things happen ?These days I do not ask these questions- I understand that because he is there these things happen.
    Yesterday I was thinking about Job and why God allowed adversity to happen to him. It was because God loved him so much and God knew that whatever happened he would never turn back on God or blame him. Perhaps God wants to teach us the same lesson through adversity. What do you think, Deb ?

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  4. Hi Susie, I’m so sorry to hear you were embarrassed.
    However, I am glad to hear it drove you closer to Our heavenly Father! Jesus gave His life for us to have abundant life, but that doesn’t mean we have no troubles! It means we can have the joy of the Lord, no matter what is happening!
    You’re learning that!!
    Get back to your dreams! Start using that gray matter!

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  5. I know that feeling. It is really no fun. I think you handled it with grace and wisdom. I think you learned a deeper truth…..that God has a plan for you and He will do what it takes to show it to you. He also knows you have strengths that you are not even aware of! I love how you keep turning your focus to Him. I need to do the same! Thank you for the reminder.


  6. Faye,
    I find that many days if I break the rules even rules made by men, God will find ways of reminding me that he does not want me to do wrong and he wants me pure. Doesn’t that show his caring?
    I thought of King David when this happened. He was a great follower and believer but he sinned too, by human and Godly laws but did he abandon God- no, he sang a few more Psalms and left behind such words of wisdom for all generations after him to use. He often said- Praise my soul especially when his soul was sorely troubled, I think. I haven’t connected the incidents in his life with the Psalms as such but I think his praise psalms must have been created when he was most upset- what do you think ?


    1. Deborah Crocker’s post reminds us :
      Honor God with everything you own;
      give Him the first and the best.
      Your barns will burst,
      your wine vats will brim over.
      But don’t, dear friend, resent God’s discipline
      don’t sulk under his loving correction.
      It’s the child he loves that God corrects; ( Proverbs 3)
      Deborah Crocker blogs at talkingtomyweightlosscounselor-god.
      I had read the Proverbs many times before but Deborah gave me a new perspective to my understanding and reading.
      We need to understand why God chastises us and accept things which we consider humiliations but are actually God lessons. It is like I am sitting in a classroom where God is the teacher.:)

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