Some children( read that adolescents) take on too much. My younger daughter, recently admitted to med school seems to be on a job spree. She wants to do everything. She tells me,” I don’t want to feel later that I have missed out something”. When she was just a year old, I remember her pottering around our house just looking for “naughtiness”. Its the same now- 18 years later. She used to avoid going to bed to not miss out on anything going on at home and would only sleep if her body absolutely refused to keep up. Somethings never change, it seems.
In college, she auditioned for a dance and she was selected for the main event. She did well and a lot of people praised her dance moves. ( she is not a trained dancer but has always loved dancing, so she used to learn dance looking at the youtube). Ever since she has been selected for every dance in the college. The dance practices go on till late at night, so much that she has no time to read her books. She is tired most of the time. Today she is in a dance that accompanies a carol- what child is this ? It seems carols have to have dances accompanying them in their college.
And then she is house captain for the Cochrane house. The job of the house captain is to gather people to come watch the various matches and even substitute as a player should there be a deficit in the number of players. This takes up a lot of her evening time. She tells me she has no time to do her laundry.
Finally, two days back all the stress got to her and she broke down while sitting on the sides cheering her Cochrane team during a volleyball match. The seniors sent her to to her room and advised her not to show up at the field for any match as she was doing too much. She got a good night’s rest that day.
Where she studies is my alma mater too and I knew how things work there but children being what they are never listen to their mother’s-that is the rule of nature. So I kept quiet and let her learn to prioritise her duties and work on her own. Seems like she is learning a hard lesson.
Your daughter is a go-getter Susie and you are correct to not step in as you will be deemed meddling … better to let her find out on her own and she won’t do it again.
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Oh Susie, I know it breaks your mother heart to see her struggling. But she’s strong like you, and will figure it out!
Love, Lucy
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I am sure she will, like daughters always do. I get lost looking for your blog, Lucy.
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Went premium today, new blog address susieshy45.blog.
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Don’t we al have to learn things for ourselves?
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She has a bad case of FOMO – fear of missing out. She’ll find her balance. Sounds like she’s learning. Hard for mothers to watch. 😫
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Have you see this happen before ? It seems she wants to prove herself.
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I see it in my young grandson. He wants to do everything and goes and goes until he is exhausted. Part of it for him is his exuberance and interest in life. He is an extrovert and thrives on activity. He likes to plan his days so there are no gaps. I can relate to him to a certain extent, but my ability to keep up this pace is not there – never has been – even when I was younger.
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FOMO- is that a real syndrome ? Seems like these kids have a bad case of this.
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Susie, thanks for posting the dance video…it was lovely. You are doing the right thing in stepping back. Some things, such as overdoing it, must be learned by experience. I still struggle to not overdo in so many areas…one day maybe someone who is over sixty will become wiser too…I can hope. Kathy
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I learn because of the snubs-said or unsaid and have learnt to discern when I must not put my foot in- the very hard way. I am rather sensitive so that helps too, I guess.
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