How to look forward to rejection letters

This article has been written by Timothy Pike owner of the http://www.dreamplaywrite.com/  blog, as a guest post.

Rejection was the subject of one of my “http://www.dreamplaywrite.com/podcast“recent podcast episodes. The podcast is based on my “http://www.dreamplaywrite.com/commitments” 6 Simple, Daily Commitments That Will Change Your Life (And Fuel Your Writing!), and since one of the Commitments involves knowing yourself, it’s worth examining the feelings produced by being rejected.

First of all, rejection is not really rejection. It’s simply someone telling you, “What you’ve given me is not exactly what I need at this time.”

It has nothing to do with whether it’s good or not. And if the agent does take the time to list some areas that need improvement, that’s even better;that could be your cue to send it in again, after making the suggested changes. 

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What you have to understand is that the needs of agents and publishers are extremely specific. Agents know their markets well. They know what they can sell, and to whom. So they’re not looking for just anything; no matter how good it is. In certain cases, you may very well have sent the right thing to the wrong agent.

Here’s another way of looking at rejection: it makes you stronger. “http://www.dreamplaywrite.com/bookstore/stephen-king

Stephen King was rejected thirty times for his novel “http://www.dreamplaywrite.com/bookstore/stephen-king/carrie“.

In fact, he got so discouraged, he threw the manuscript in the wastebasket and his wife had to dig it out and encourage him to keep going.

A writer made a comment on “http://www.dreamplaywrite.com/blog

recently, lamenting that he had sent out no fewer than twenty-five query letters to agents about his new book, and didn’t hear back from a single one. He seemed about to give up. Twenty-five! I didn’t want to break the news to him that he had about seventy-five more to go until he had any room at all to complain.

Now you see how rejection can weed out the weak: Stephen King, one of the most famous and successful authors of our time, got more rejections than the total number of query letters, this other person even sent out.

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Rejection is an inevitable part of a writer’s life. So take heart, and redouble your efforts. Start a collection; frame rejection letters and hang them on your wall. Make light of it and embrace it. After all, the more you do something you’re afraid of, the less it affects you. Remember, the most successful writers are the ones who took rejection again and again, each time getting up back up and saying, “Thank you, sir, may I have another?”


Ref: “http://www.dreamplaywrite.com“.

Timothy Pike is the host of a “http://www.dreamplaywrite.com/podcast

daily audio program and recently launched the “http://www.dreamplaywrite.com/challenge

12-Month Author Challenge, which challenges writers to write, edit, and self-publish their books in 12 months or less.

The good that men do lives after them —

I was just thinking today,my daughter turned 15 a couple of weeks back. Who did we invite to her birthday party ? Mostly her friends and children we knew. But if I had happened to see a poor laborer on the street, driving home from work, would I have invited him to my daughter’s party ? Most certainly not.

As human beings we tend to be exclusive rather than inclusive,which is ironical because, everyone says ” man is a social animal”.Then why is it so difficult for me to bring people I don’t know home, or talk to someone I have never talked to before in the mall, or smile at someone just for the pleasure of smiling ? Why is it so difficult for me to give ?

When it comes to getting gifts, I would be first in line. I want to get birthday gifts, anniversary presents and X’mas gifts are an absolute must. I need new clothes all the time. I love to gift myself good food, books to read, pleasant times, my time anything for myself. But when it comes to giving, why are my fists so tightly clenched ?

Recently I read about parents who had abandoned a child of theirs with the surrogate mother, just because the child had Down’s syndrome. That innocent baby does not have the good luck of growing up with his parents just because he is maimed. We know that when we give a feast, we need to invite the poor, the maimed, the lame and the blind to the feast, not people who would repay you with return invitations.

One of the ways we can show concern for some one we don’t know is by reading through the writings and posts on the blog spaces of people we don’t know and ” commenting” and ” liking” them. Who knows, it might make the day of an unknown person.

Lets challenge ourselves to move out of our comfort zone and provide a kind word, a comment, a recommendation, a gift, a smile or a meal to someone from whom we don’t expect anything back.

The good that we do will indeed live after us and we will be repaid in full.